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***Pitching My TentOn Marriage, Motherhood, Friendship, and Other Leaps of Faithby Anita Diamant Reviewed December 17, 2006.
This is one
of those
delightful books of musings—calling them personal essays is correct but
seems
too academic for these thoughtful insights. I
love reading these books slowly, a little bit at a time,
and absorbing
and thinking about the wisdom contained. She’s
Jewish, but her thoughts about faith speak to people
of any
religion. Here are a few passages I
marked: “Some people
find refuge from
the contemporary fray in received authority. I
relish my freedom to wrestle with my faith, respectful
of the sustaining
traditions of the past and grateful for the insights and wisdom of the
present. I agree that nothing is simple
anymore. And for that, I thank God.” This part especially means a lot to me now
that I've moved near two dear friends I've known since childhood: “Women’s
friendships are, I
think, one of the great secrets of the social universe.
When you see pairs of women, sometimes
threesomes or foursomes, from the outside, it might seem they are
‘just’ having
lunch, or drinking coffee, or walking around the neighborhood, or even
shopping. But all this activity is, in
fact, the methodology of friendship, the ways women connect and keep
each other
sane. It goes on by phone and e-mail and
Hallmark, too. “This is not
trivial
activity. From the outside, it might
appear casual, but these relationships are, in fact, the bedrock of
contentment. We witness and we cheer, we
commiserate and we prod. We lean on each
other and we prop each other up. We tell
each other the truth. We sustain one
another. “My women
friends—some of
whom I’ve known for thirty years, some of whom I’ve known for three
months—sustain me in ways I couldn’t begin to enumerate.
At least not publicly. “We all love
our families,
but the truth is, they drive us nuts. Without
friends, a lot of us would run screaming out of
our homes at all
hours of the day and night, ready to hand our children over to passing
motorists, to flee spouses who snore or are laundry-challenged, to
avoid the
well-meaning ‘corrections’ of siblings and parents. “Our friends
listen to us
complain about our families. They
validate and sympathize with the problems that are genuine, and help us
see
when we’re overreacting. Friends don’t
nag. I think that may be the definition
of a friend.” “Friends will
show up when it
matters, and when it doesn’t, we trust the foundation will remain firm.” On midlife: “The prelude to these changes isn’t always
pretty. Midlife review can feel like
existential indigestion. ‘Is this it?’
you ask yourself. ‘I hate my job,’ you
say, but quietly so no one will fire you. The
prechange mode may even seem like adolescence
revisited, except now
you have a couple of people depending on you for groceries. “The need for
a midlife
jump-start may be part of the human condition. At
least that’s what developmental psychologist Erik
Erikson
theorized. According to Erikson, adults
face a fundamental choice between ‘generativity’ and ‘stagnation.’ Either you start playing the piano, tutor a
child in math, or learn a new vocabulary (city planning, perennials,
French),
or you risk feeling trapped, squashed, finished.” “Music speaks
to the spirit
unmediated. Its magic is undeniable,
which was why the ancient priests harnessed it to the service of God. The You can see
that Anita
Diamant covers a wide range of topics. She’s
a talented writer, and speaks with insight on so many different things. Copyright © 2006 Sondra Eklund. All
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