{"id":442,"date":"2009-04-29T22:18:45","date_gmt":"2009-04-30T02:18:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/2009\/04\/29\/review-of-verbal-abuse-survivors-speak-out-by-patricia-evans\/"},"modified":"2009-06-12T23:55:09","modified_gmt":"2009-06-13T03:55:09","slug":"review-of-verbal-abuse-survivors-speak-out-by-patricia-evans","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/?p=442","title":{"rendered":"Review of Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, by Patricia Evans"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out<\/em><\/p>\n

On Relationship and Recovery<\/em><\/p>\n

by Patricia Evans<\/p>\n

Bob Adams Publishers, Holbrook, Massachusetts, 1993.\u00a0 260 pages.<\/p>\n

I have now read all of Patricia Evans’ books on verbally abusive relationships.\u00a0 All are very helpful for shedding light on a problem that’s surprisingly hard to recognize when you’re in the middle of it.<\/p>\n

In Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, <\/em>Patricia Evans takes from the thousands of letters she has received from verbal abuse survivors after she wrote the book The Verbally Abusive Relationship.\u00a0 <\/em>She writes:<\/p>\n

“I receive between one hundred and two hundred letters and notes a month from the survivors of verbally abusive relationships.\u00a0 I read every single one.\u00a0 Some survivors had been so devalued and undermined that they have even requested permission<\/em> to send their thoughts and feelings on the subject.\u00a0 Some letters are more than twenty pages long.\u00a0 As I read these letters, I am often overwhelmed by the suffering they express.\u00a0 Never would I have dreamt that there were so many, in so much pain, so silently enduring.\u00a0 I am moved by the spirit of their quest for understanding and freedom from abuse and I am grateful and touched that they have taken their time to tell me their stories.\u00a0 Often they do so, as they say, ‘. . . in case it may help someone else.'”<\/p>\n

Anyone who has been or is in a verbally abusive relationship can read this book to know they are not alone.\u00a0 Patricia Evans also uses the letters of verbal abuse survivors in order to illuminate and understand the problem.<\/p>\n

If you are being devalued, undermined, accused, or defined, you are being verbally abused.\u00a0 If your partner tries to tell you what your motives and thoughts are, you are being verbally abused.\u00a0 The problem is real, and the problem is widespread.\u00a0 And Patricia Evans’ books are helpful for survivors to understand how best to deal with the abuse.<\/p>\n

Besides talking about the abuse and ways to deal with it, she also covers healing, recovery, and support, including a chapter of affirmations to build back up your spirit.<\/p>\n

I like her concluding paragraph:<\/p>\n

“We have been on a long journey with the Survivors.\u00a0 They have spoken their truth with strength and determination, and in so doing they have given us a vision of freedom.\u00a0 And even now, as this book ends, a new journey begins.\u00a0 This journey is a movement toward awareness, meaning, and purpose; it is founded upon the infinite value of the human spirit.\u00a0 To join in this journey, all we must do is speak our truth with courage and strength.\u00a0 Truth is what dispels the prejudice, shatters the illusions, and breaks the bonds of verbal abuse.”<\/p>\n

This echoes the Bible verse, “You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.”\u00a0 Amen.<\/p>\n

Buy from Amazon.com<\/a><\/p>\n

Find this review on Sonderbooks<\/a> at: www.sonderbooks.com\/Nonfiction\/verbal_abuse_survivors.html<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out On Relationship and Recovery by Patricia Evans Bob Adams Publishers, Holbrook, Massachusetts, 1993.\u00a0 260 pages. I have now read all of Patricia Evans’ books on verbally abusive relationships.\u00a0 All are very helpful for shedding light on a problem that’s surprisingly hard to recognize when you’re in the middle of it. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-442","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nonfiction-review","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/442","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=442"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/442\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=442"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=442"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=442"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}