{"id":12942,"date":"2020-04-25T18:32:19","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T22:32:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderjourneys\/?p=12942"},"modified":"2020-04-25T18:42:37","modified_gmt":"2020-04-25T22:42:37","slug":"legacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderjourneys\/?p=12942","title":{"rendered":"Legacy"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I’ve been thinking about my legacy today. There’s a song by Casting Crowns that plays on Christian radio that is annoyingly catchy that says, “I don’t want to leave a legacy…” but I do want to leave a legacy. Yes, I want my legacy to make people think of Jesus — but I hope my life will be enough of a light that people will miss me, too.<\/p>\n

Why am I thinking about my legacy? Because of the coronavirus, of course. It’s a reminder of our mortality. Today I read that it causes blood clots and strokes. Since I already had a stroke at 47 years of age and was left with a small right vertebral artery, I’m at higher risk for strokes. I also woke up at 5 am this morning because it hurt to breathe and in my half-asleep state was convinced I had Covid-19. Well, by the time I got up it was just mild chest pain and I didn’t have a fever — so I think it was just the bronchitis I’ve had since January acting up for some unknown reason. But all of it is a reminder that yes, any of us could die at any time.<\/p>\n

Both my parents died in the last seven months, my father unexpectedly from a heart attack. Seeing the mess he left behind that my siblings are trying to clean up made me want to do a better job of having things in order. Or at least that’s what I want. (Not that I’m doing much about it. I did start a list of my passwords….)<\/p>\n

Then I’ve got a friend who’s had a lot of health issues lately who talks about how fondly she thinks of going to heaven. I don’t like it when she talks like that, because I think life on earth is a great gift, but at the same time I remember times when I used to get frequent migraines that I would think fondly of heaven. But I do think God puts us on earth for a reason and it’s not because He’s cruel.<\/p>\n

So all that is to say, I wanted to write up some thoughts about if I should die in 2020. It seems to be a little more likely in 2020 than it usually is. Still not terribly likely, but slightly more likely than before.<\/p>\n

First of all, I do believe I would be in heaven, and I think heaven is so wonderful, I would not be missing earth.<\/p>\n

But I also have lived a good life. I am happy with the life I’ve had. In fact, I want to make this a list of three things I’d regret — and then a long list of things about the life I’ve already lived that I’m tremendously thankful for.<\/p>\n

Okay, I don’t actually think there will be regrets in heaven. So let me call them three things I’d hoped would happen before I die.<\/p>\n

1) First, I hope that I will be reconciled with my oldest child.<\/p>\n

I love her, and her existence has brought me delight since the day she was born. I wish I’d realized much, much sooner that she was female (which makes a lot of sense), but still the person she is shines. I miss finding out what’s going on in her life. I miss the way she challenges me and expands my mind.<\/p>\n

All the same, if it’s possible from heaven, I’m pretty certain I’ll be watching her and watching over her, if that’s possible. I might get to see more of her that way, who knows?<\/p>\n

2) I’d really like to marry again in this life.<\/p>\n

It’s not a tragedy if I don’t — my life is full of joy. And it’s probably terribly selfish of me, but I’d like to leave a great big hole in somebody’s life. I’d like to love someone who loves me and loves God. I’d like to share life with a kind man again on this earth.<\/p>\n

But it’s different than with my first marriage. Then I wasn’t sure I was even lovable until I met him and found out he loved me. Now? I’m quirky, sure, but I’m confident I can have a wonderful partnership with the right person — but it’s a lot trickier to find such a man who’s also available. And life is too good to settle for a less than optimal partnership.<\/p>\n

Anyway, I may not leave a big gaping hole in one person’s life — but I am confident that I’d leave lots of large holes in other people’s lives. I have been abundantly, richly, overwhelmingly blessed with good friendships throughout my life. I am much loved, even if there is not romance in my life right now.<\/p>\n

3) I hope I’ll publish a book before I die.<\/p>\n

But hey, I’ve got my blogs! I’ve got Sonderbooks<\/a>! Hoping to be published is partly because all my life I’ve wanted to be a writer. But again, it’s not a tragedy if this doesn’t happen. After all, I even got to write my life story in Project 52<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I am excited about the thought of heaven, but I am in *no* rush to go there! I love life, and hope to continue to live on earth for a few more decades.<\/p>\n

But I want my kids to know, when I’m gone, that I won’t feel cheated if my life should be cut short. I am so thankful for the life I’ve already had, and that’s really what I want to reflect on here. How do I even begin?<\/p>\n

Well, let’s start with the obvious: I’m so thankful for my kids. The part of their lives they shared with me was awesome, and I’m so proud of the adults they grew to be. Knowing them (even imperfectly) makes me happy. <\/p>\n

And that means I’m thankful I married their Dad. I’m thankful that we became adults together. I’m thankful for the kind of father he was when our kids were young. I’m thankful for how he shared in childcare responsibilities. And I’m especially thankful that his job meant we got to live in Europe for ten years and got to see the world.<\/p>\n

I’m also thankful I got divorced. I’m still sad he wanted a divorce and going through it was indeed the worst thing that ever happened to me. But coming out the other side, I like the way it deepened my relationship with God. I like the way I learned that I am lovable and forgivable despite what my husband might think. I do like that I learned to be a whole lot less judgmental and gained new compassion for people going through hard things. I no longer assumed that they broke the rules and brought it on themselves. I learned that life is not in my control — but that God will walk with me through anything.<\/p>\n

I am thankful that God has had His hand on my life all my life. I was brought up in a Christian family and accepted Jesus when I was very young — and God has stayed with me.<\/p>\n

I’m thankful that my parents encouraged me (with money!) to memorize Scripture, so that God’s Word has always been my comfort and guide.<\/p>\n

I’m thankful that my beliefs changed since I was a child. I’m thankful that now I believe that God will eventually save everyone. Along with that, I believe that God’s love for us is deep and unfailing. I believe that God doesn’t get upset with me when I stay up too late doing a jigsaw puzzle or get distracted while I have my quiet time. I believe that he doesn’t want to hear a list of everything I’ve done wrong — I believe He wants my heart.<\/p>\n

Here I’m going to insert the Psalm I’ve been memorizing this week, Psalm 130. This is what I believe God is like:<\/p>\n

Out of the depths I cry to you, LORD;
\nLord, hear my voice.
\nLet your ears be attentive
\nto my cry for mercy.<\/p>\n

If you, LORD, kept a record of sins,
\nLord, who could stand?
\nBut with you there is forgiveness,
\nso that we can, with reverence, serve you.<\/p>\n

I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits,
\nand in his word I put my hope.
\nI wait for the Lord
\nmore than watchmen wait for the morning,
\nmore than watchmen wait for the morning.<\/p>\n

Sondy, put your hope in the LORD,
\nfor with the LORD is unfailing love
\nand with him is full redemption.
\nHe himself will redeem you
\nfrom all your sins.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

[Modifications in the last paragraph are mine.]<\/p>\n

I am thankful that God doesn’t keep a record of sins. I am thankful that He has given me a calling and allowed me to serve Him.<\/p>\n

I’m so thankful that I get to be a librarian and that I got to be on the Newbery committee and I get to write my website of book reviews and share good books with people!<\/p>\n

And I’m so thankful that I received the 2019 Allie Beth Martin Award<\/a> in recognition of all that! That felt so validating.<\/p>\n

And I’m thankful for other little things I get to do. I’m thankful that I get to live in a beautiful place. I’m thankful that I get to take beautiful pictures. I’m thankful that Facebook exists and I can share those pictures with my friends. And I’m thankful that I can put quotes on the pictures and share wise things from my reading — with pictures on my Sonderquotes blog<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I’m thankful I outgrew my migraines. Someone recently asked if there was an age you’d go back to — and I realized that my 50s have been the best — because I lost my migraines. My life has always been good. But it’s nice to deal with pain so much less often.<\/p>\n

I’m thankful for my three hoards — books, yarn (for knitting), and games. My kids are going to have some fun getting rid of those things, but they’ve brought me lots of joy, so they’ve been worth it.<\/p>\n

And that reminds me — I’m thankful I’ve gotten to be a matheknitician<\/a>! My mathematical knitting creations are beautiful things that came out of my brain, and it makes me happy to have such expressions.<\/p>\n

I’m so thankful for friends. I have been extra blessed in my life with friends. First, I’ve got my twelve siblings. And then friends still in my life since third grade, friends from high school and college, friends I met in New Jersey, Illinois, Germany, and Virginia, friends I met via my website and discovered were kindred spirits, friends who enjoy exchanging long emails, friends I work with who brighten my days, and new friends from my new church and the choir where we make music together.<\/p>\n

I know that I’m a quirky person. When I see how much I’m enjoying shelter in place (Reading! Writing! Puzzling!) and how rare that is — I realize not everyone’s going to find things in common with me.<\/p>\n

But how blessed I am that I’ve collected an enormous set of wonderful people who have touched my life.<\/p>\n

And that alone is enough reason for me to say I’ve lived a wonderful life.<\/p>\n

I hope I’ll get to experience that life much longer. But whether or not — what a joy this life has already been!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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