Release Shame
Once we accept shame’s presence, find a way to make it disappear. Talk back to it. Get mad at it. Tell it to go away. Feel it intensely. Make friends…
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Guilt and Shame
Learn to recognize the difference between shame and guilt. Guilt is believing that what we did isn’t okay. Authentic guilt is valuable. It’s a signal that we’ve violated our own,…
Last Resort?
When all else fails, try gratitude. Sometimes, that’s what we’re supposed to be learning. If we can’t think of anything to be grateful about, be grateful anyway. — Melody Beattie,…
Open Your Eyes
If everything looks black, we’ve probably got our eyes shut. — Melody Beattie, Beyond Codependency, p. 71
Work toward Compassion
It’s hard to feel compassion for someone while that person is using or victimizing us. We’ll probably feel angry. First, we stop allowing ourselves to be used. Then, we work…
Recovery
“In recovery, we stop enduring life and begin to live it…. We forego worrying and denial, and learn constructive problem solving skills…. We learn to value what we want and…