{"id":104,"date":"2007-09-22T22:27:36","date_gmt":"2007-09-23T02:27:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2007\/09\/22\/we-are-okay\/"},"modified":"2007-09-22T22:30:56","modified_gmt":"2007-09-23T02:30:56","slug":"we-are-okay","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=104","title":{"rendered":"We Are Okay"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Who we are right now is okay.\u00c2\u00a0 In fact, codependents are some of the most loving, generous, good-hearted, and concerned people I know.\u00c2\u00a0 We&#8217;ve just allowed ourselves to be tricked into doing things that hurt us, and we&#8217;re going to learn how to stop doing these things.\u00c2\u00a0 But those tricks are our problems; they are not us.\u00c2\u00a0 If we have one character defect that is abhorrent, it is the way we hate and pick on ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 That is simply not tolerable nor acceptable any longer.\u00c2\u00a0 We can stop picking on ourselves for picking on ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 This habit is not our <em>fault<\/em> either, but it is our <em>responsibility <\/em>to learn to stop doing it.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We can cherish ourselves and live our lives.\u00c2\u00a0 We can nurture ourselves and love ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else.\u00c2\u00a0 It&#8217;s the best thing we&#8217;ve got going for us.\u00c2\u00a0 It&#8217;s who we are, and who we were meant to be.\u00c2\u00a0 And it&#8217;s not a mistake.\u00c2\u00a0 We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us.\u00c2\u00a0 Believe it.\u00c2\u00a0 It makes life much easier.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, p. 112-113<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Who we are right now is okay.\u00c2\u00a0 In fact, codependents are some of the most loving, generous, good-hearted, and concerned people I know.\u00c2\u00a0 We&#8217;ve just allowed ourselves to be tricked into doing things that hurt us, and we&#8217;re going to learn how to stop doing these things.\u00c2\u00a0 But those tricks are our problems; they are [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,19,22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-104","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-healing","category-letting-go","category-peace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=104"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=104"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=104"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=104"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}