“Disappointment, sadness, anxiety, and distress are part of everyday living.\u00c2\u00a0 Only if they stimulate core hurts that are blamed on someone else will they become anger.<\/p>\n
“Disappointment means you didn’t get something you wanted.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn’t mean that you are unworthy of it, it just means you didn’t get it.<\/p>\n
“Sadness means you’ve lost something.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn’t mean that you are unlovable, it just means that you lost something.<\/p>\n
“Anxiety is a dread that something bad might happen.\u00c2\u00a0 It does not tell you that you <\/em>are bad; it tells you to pay attention to a problem, so you can solve <\/em>it.<\/p>\n “Distress means that you are currently overloaded in emotional response.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn’t mean that you are inadequate, it means your overexcited emotional circuits need a moment to calm.\u00c2\u00a0 HEALS will do the trick quickly.”<\/p>\n — Steven Stosny, Manual of the Core Value Workshop,<\/em> p. 40<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" “Disappointment, sadness, anxiety, and distress are part of everyday living.\u00c2\u00a0 Only if they stimulate core hurts that are blamed on someone else will they become anger. “Disappointment means you didn’t get something you wanted.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn’t mean that you are unworthy of it, it just means you didn’t get it. “Sadness means you’ve lost something.\u00c2\u00a0 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25,19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-170","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-core-value","category-letting-go"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/170","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=170"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/170\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=170"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=170"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=170"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}