{"id":173,"date":"2007-11-07T23:16:09","date_gmt":"2007-11-08T03:16:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2007\/11\/07\/the-golden-rule-of-self-esteem\/"},"modified":"2008-01-24T23:58:45","modified_gmt":"2008-01-25T03:58:45","slug":"the-golden-rule-of-self-esteem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=173","title":{"rendered":"The Golden Rule of Self-Esteem"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The road to psychological <strong>ruin <\/strong>begins with <strong>blame.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The road to psychological <strong>power <\/strong>begins with <strong>responsibility.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>You cannot blame and find good solutions at the same time.<\/em>\u00c2\u00a0 You must choose between blame and making things better.<\/p>\n<p>Blame is always about the <strong>past.<\/strong>\u00c2\u00a0 Solutions must occur in the <strong>present <\/strong>and the <strong>future.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Blame focuses attention on damage, injury, defects, weakness &#8212; on what is <em>wrong.<\/em>\u00c2\u00a0 Blame makes you feel like a <strong>powerless <\/strong>victim.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Responsibility<\/strong> focuses attention on strengths, resiliency, competence, growth, creativity, healing, and compassion, all of which are necessary for solving family problems.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Steven Stosny, <em>Manual of the Core Value Workshop, <\/em>p. 44<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The road to psychological ruin begins with blame. The road to psychological power begins with responsibility. You cannot blame and find good solutions at the same time.\u00c2\u00a0 You must choose between blame and making things better. Blame is always about the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Solutions must occur in the present and the future. Blame focuses attention on [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[17,25,11,21,27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-173","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-compassion","category-core-value","category-forgiveness","category-healing","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/173","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=173"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/173\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=173"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=173"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=173"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}