{"id":328,"date":"2008-01-23T21:59:26","date_gmt":"2008-01-24T01:59:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/01\/23\/letting-go-2\/"},"modified":"2008-01-23T21:59:26","modified_gmt":"2008-01-24T01:59:26","slug":"letting-go-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=328","title":{"rendered":"Letting Go"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Of <em>course <\/em>my frustration was justified!\u00c2\u00a0 But that&#8217;s beside the point.\u00c2\u00a0 What kept me locked into the Gaslight Tango was my inability to accept that my husband was going to see things his own way, regardless of what I did.\u00c2\u00a0 If he wanted to think I was unreasonable, he would, no matter how hard I argued or how upset I got.\u00c2\u00a0 As soon as I understood that he &#8212; and he alone &#8212; had power over his own thoughts, no matter how right I might be, and that he wasn&#8217;t going to change, no matter what I said or did, I took a significant step toward freedom.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Dr. Robin Stern, <em>The Gaslight Effect, <\/em>p. 192<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Of course my frustration was justified!\u00c2\u00a0 But that&#8217;s beside the point.\u00c2\u00a0 What kept me locked into the Gaslight Tango was my inability to accept that my husband was going to see things his own way, regardless of what I did.\u00c2\u00a0 If he wanted to think I was unreasonable, he would, no matter how hard I [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19,14,27,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-328","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letting-go","category-marriage","category-relationships","category-truth"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/328","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=328"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/328\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=328"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=328"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=328"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}