Research shows that learning to forgive or being a forgiving person helps you feel better physically.\u00c2\u00a0 The reasons are simple.\u00c2\u00a0 It is very stressful to be constantly at war with certain parts of your life.\u00c2\u00a0 Telling yourself again and again that you got a raw deal because your husband does not love you the way you want to be loved is hard on your heart and nervous system.\u00c2\u00a0 Blaming someone who does not care about you enough for the way your life turned out is incredibly stressful.\u00c2\u00a0 Dwelling on the ex who didn’t love you and has since moved on puts a strain on your nervous system and does not slow your ex down at all.\u00c2\u00a0 Finally, it is stressful and ultimately self-defeating to complain about things you can’t change in your spouse.\u00c2\u00a0 If your wife is messy and has always been messy, constantly expressing your displeasure about it will not do your muscles or arteries any good.\u00c2\u00a0 Nor will it make you or her feel better or get along any better.<\/p>\n
The reality is that resentment and stress can further damage your relationship as well as your nervous system, while forgiveness can reduce the harm caused by these negative feelings.\u00c2\u00a0 By forgiving, we are able to let go of our resentment and reduce the stress it places on our body.<\/p>\n
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