I hope that you also can learn to be more forgiving of your partner.\u00c2\u00a0 Doing this will be worth whatever effort you have to make to get there.\u00c2\u00a0 Even if you are able to develop a forgiving nature, however, you will still have specific offenses to work through.\u00c2\u00a0 But being forgiving will reduce the number of obstacles you create in your marriage and improve the pleasure of the time you spend with your loved one.<\/p>\n
No matter how perfectly loving your relationship is, your partner will do irritating things and make choices that are potentially dangerous to your relationship.\u00c2\u00a0 Inevitably you will have to make decisions that may require difficult conversations.\u00c2\u00a0 Forgiveness will help you have more peaceful conversations and help make the difficult decisions easier to think out.\u00c2\u00a0 Both situational forgiveness (forgiving a specific act) and dispositional forgiveness (becoming a more forgiving person) can be practiced with specific techniques for getting over wounds and moving on.\u00c2\u00a0 Most of the time the health of our marriages requires only that we be more forgiving of who our partner is.\u00c2\u00a0 Some of our partner’s actions may require specific acts of forgiveness because the resulting wound is so deep that the grief takes time to heal.\u00c2\u00a0 The power of forgiveness is such that even situational forgiveness is easier the more forgiving we are in general.<\/p>\n
— Dr. Fred Luskin, Forgive for Love, <\/em>p. 56<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I hope that you also can learn to be more forgiving of your partner.\u00c2\u00a0 Doing this will be worth whatever effort you have to make to get there.\u00c2\u00a0 Even if you are able to develop a forgiving nature, however, you will still have specific offenses to work through.\u00c2\u00a0 But being forgiving will reduce the number […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-373","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-marriage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/373","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=373"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/373\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=373"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=373"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=373"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}