{"id":3832,"date":"2015-08-15T21:23:09","date_gmt":"2015-08-16T01:23:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=3832"},"modified":"2015-08-15T21:28:03","modified_gmt":"2015-08-16T01:28:03","slug":"learn-to-bear-joy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=3832","title":{"rendered":"Learn to Bear Joy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of our greatest life tasks is actually to learn to bear joy, and to let it influence our psychology in deeper and deeper ways.  In actuality, there is a great cultural discomfort with joy, and our voracious pleasure seeking is often a mask for our fear of simple joy.  Joy frightens us, it makes our defenses quake &#8212; it almost invites a superstitious fear of &#8220;the other shoe dropping.&#8221;  We can bear joy for fleeting moments, but for most of us, self-appreciation all too quickly devolves into self-measurement.<\/p>\n<p>In my work as a therapist I watch for these moments of inspiration and try not to let them pass.  I encourage my clients to stay with their inspiring moment just a bit longer.  When they do, something surprisingly deep will likely emerge&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>You have similar gifts inside you, and the more you savor your small moments of inspiration, the better you will come to know them &#8212; and be changed by them.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Ken Page, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sonderbooks.com\/Nonfiction\/deeper_dating.html\">Deeper Dating<\/a><\/em>, p. 45<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of our greatest life tasks is actually to learn to bear joy, and to let it influence our psychology in deeper and deeper ways. In actuality, there is a great cultural discomfort with joy, and our voracious pleasure seeking is often a mask for our fear of simple joy. Joy frightens us, it makes [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3832","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-joy","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3832","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3832"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3832\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3832"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3832"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3832"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}