{"id":388,"date":"2008-02-23T22:47:54","date_gmt":"2008-02-24T02:47:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/02\/23\/letting-go-of-control-2\/"},"modified":"2008-02-23T22:47:54","modified_gmt":"2008-02-24T02:47:54","slug":"letting-go-of-control-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=388","title":{"rendered":"Letting Go of Control"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>To be intimate or close, we have to let go, for the moment, of our need to control.\u00c2\u00a0 Controlling and caretaking prevent intimacy and closeness.\u00c2\u00a0 They are substitutes for, and barricades to, closeness.\u00c2\u00a0 We can&#8217;t be close if we&#8217;re trying to control or caretake.\u00c2\u00a0 Controlling and caretaking are ways to connect with people.\u00c2\u00a0 They&#8217;re not as satisfying as closeness and intimacy, but for some of us, those are the only ways we learned how to connect with others.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Melody Beattie, <em>Beyond Codependency, <\/em>p. 185<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To be intimate or close, we have to let go, for the moment, of our need to control.\u00c2\u00a0 Controlling and caretaking prevent intimacy and closeness.\u00c2\u00a0 They are substitutes for, and barricades to, closeness.\u00c2\u00a0 We can&#8217;t be close if we&#8217;re trying to control or caretake.\u00c2\u00a0 Controlling and caretaking are ways to connect with people.\u00c2\u00a0 They&#8217;re not [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19,15,27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-388","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letting-go","category-love","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/388","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=388"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/388\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=388"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=388"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=388"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}