{"id":402,"date":"2008-03-06T23:09:30","date_gmt":"2008-03-07T03:09:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/03\/06\/openness\/"},"modified":"2008-03-06T23:09:30","modified_gmt":"2008-03-07T03:09:30","slug":"openness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=402","title":{"rendered":"Openness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You still need to be open with your partner about the things he or she does that are hurtful, offensive, or selfish.\u00c2\u00a0 You don&#8217;t have to be a martyr about it.\u00c2\u00a0 A strong, healthy relationship needs open communication, and letting your partner know how he or she is hurting the relationship is necessary for things to improve.\u00c2\u00a0 The important thing is to forgive your lover before you initiate that talk.\u00c2\u00a0 Then you can talk openly and pleasantly, without anger&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>Forgiveness does not solve every problem.\u00c2\u00a0 But it does reduce the intensity of emotional distress so that our problems can be talked about and solved if possible.\u00c2\u00a0 Blaming our partners for not being the person we want them to be creates anger in both us and them.\u00c2\u00a0 This anger causes stress.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Dr. Fred Luskin, <em>Forgive for Love, <\/em>p. 105-107<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You still need to be open with your partner about the things he or she does that are hurtful, offensive, or selfish.\u00c2\u00a0 You don&#8217;t have to be a martyr about it.\u00c2\u00a0 A strong, healthy relationship needs open communication, and letting your partner know how he or she is hurting the relationship is necessary for things [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,14,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-402","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-marriage","category-truth"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/402","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=402"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/402\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=402"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=402"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=402"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}