{"id":489,"date":"2008-05-15T22:10:10","date_gmt":"2008-05-16T02:10:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/05\/15\/what-we-can-change\/"},"modified":"2008-05-15T22:10:10","modified_gmt":"2008-05-16T02:10:10","slug":"what-we-can-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=489","title":{"rendered":"What We Can Change"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We generally cannot change the actions and thoughts of other people or what happened in our own past.\u00c2\u00a0 What we can change is ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 Forgiveness is one way to change ourselves and in that way change our relationships with our lovers.\u00c2\u00a0 As we change, we go from anger and self-pity to understanding and goodwill.\u00c2\u00a0 Becoming a more forgiving person helps us to change our focus from our wounds to the present and future possibilities for happiness in our marriage.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Dr. Fred Luskin, <em>Forgive for Love, <\/em>p. 169<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We generally cannot change the actions and thoughts of other people or what happened in our own past.\u00c2\u00a0 What we can change is ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 Forgiveness is one way to change ourselves and in that way change our relationships with our lovers.\u00c2\u00a0 As we change, we go from anger and self-pity to understanding and goodwill.\u00c2\u00a0 Becoming [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-489","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-marriage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/489","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=489"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/489\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=489"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=489"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=489"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}