{"id":5317,"date":"2017-12-21T23:14:31","date_gmt":"2017-12-22T03:14:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=5317"},"modified":"2017-12-21T23:18:58","modified_gmt":"2017-12-22T03:18:58","slug":"forming-a-grievance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=5317","title":{"rendered":"Forming a Grievance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There are very few instances where the long-term use of anger will be of help to you.  I want to make clear, once a situation has passed, both the long-term naming of angry feelings and the expression of anger rarely lead to good results.  Anger can be a wonderful short-term solution to your life&#8217;s difficulties, yet it is rarely a good long-term solution to painful events.  Anger is simply our way of reminding ourselves that we have a problem that needs attention.  Yet too often we get angry instead of taking constructive action, or we get angry because we do not know what else to do.<\/p>\n<p>It is my contention that the long-term experience of anger, or what we call a grievance, is almost never helpful.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Dr. Fred Luskin, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sonderbooks.com\/Nonfiction\/forgive_for_good.html\">Forgive for Good<\/a><\/em>, p. 14.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are very few instances where the long-term use of anger will be of help to you. I want to make clear, once a situation has passed, both the long-term naming of angry feelings and the expression of anger rarely lead to good results. Anger can be a wonderful short-term solution to your life&#8217;s difficulties, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,35,21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5317","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-growth","category-healing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5317","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5317"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5317\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5317"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5317"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5317"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}