{"id":551,"date":"2008-06-30T22:24:42","date_gmt":"2008-07-01T02:24:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/06\/30\/teenagers-and-guilt\/"},"modified":"2008-06-30T22:24:42","modified_gmt":"2008-07-01T02:24:42","slug":"teenagers-and-guilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=551","title":{"rendered":"Teenagers and Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Before going further, remind yourself of some of the key dynamics at play in your teenager:\u00c2\u00a0 extreme self-consciousness, idealized independence, and an abundance of ego.\u00c2\u00a0 Now imagine how guilt plays out in that natural psychosocial triumvirate that your teenager calls <em>self.\u00c2\u00a0 <\/em>Guilt is everywhere!\u00c2\u00a0 No matter that your teenager doesn&#8217;t give you a glimpse of his guilt, you need to know that it&#8217;s there, everyday.\u00c2\u00a0 And in huge portions.\u00c2\u00a0 He just hides it behind the closed bedroom door and the loud music blasting from his stereo.<\/p>\n<p>In brief, guilt is part and parcel of every teenager.\u00c2\u00a0 If you heap on needless portions, it blows up in your face, which means <em>hasta la vista <\/em>to the connection between you and your teenager.\u00c2\u00a0 Focus on his integrity and stop short of playing the parent martyr.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Michael Riera, PhD, <em>Staying Connected to Your Teenager, <\/em>p. 163<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Before going further, remind yourself of some of the key dynamics at play in your teenager:\u00c2\u00a0 extreme self-consciousness, idealized independence, and an abundance of ego.\u00c2\u00a0 Now imagine how guilt plays out in that natural psychosocial triumvirate that your teenager calls self.\u00c2\u00a0 Guilt is everywhere!\u00c2\u00a0 No matter that your teenager doesn&#8217;t give you a glimpse of [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-551","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-parenting","category-teenagers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/551","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=551"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/551\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=551"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=551"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=551"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}