{"id":567,"date":"2008-07-19T22:41:15","date_gmt":"2008-07-20T02:41:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/07\/19\/making-a-point-to-ourselves\/"},"modified":"2008-07-19T22:41:15","modified_gmt":"2008-07-20T02:41:15","slug":"making-a-point-to-ourselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=567","title":{"rendered":"Making a Point to Ourselves"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Trying excessively to make a point with another may mean that we have not yet made that point with ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 Once we make that point with ourselves, once <em>we <\/em>understand, we will know what to do.<\/p>\n<p>The issue is not about others understanding and taking us seriously.\u00c2\u00a0 The issue is not about others believing we&#8217;re good and good enough.\u00c2\u00a0 The issue is not about others seeing and believing how responsible or loving or competent we are.\u00c2\u00a0 The issue is not about whether others realize how deeply we are feeling a particular feeling.\u00c2\u00a0 We are the ones that need to see the light&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>If I catch myself in the codependent trap of trying to emphasize something about myself to another, I will ask myself if I need to convince myself of that point.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Melody Beattie, <em>The Language of Letting Go, <\/em>p. 204<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Trying excessively to make a point with another may mean that we have not yet made that point with ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 Once we make that point with ourselves, once we understand, we will know what to do. The issue is not about others understanding and taking us seriously.\u00c2\u00a0 The issue is not about others believing we&#8217;re [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25,21,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-567","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-core-value","category-healing","category-truth"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/567","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=567"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/567\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=567"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=567"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=567"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}