{"id":575,"date":"2008-07-25T22:36:49","date_gmt":"2008-07-26T02:36:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/07\/25\/empowering-yourself\/"},"modified":"2008-07-25T22:36:49","modified_gmt":"2008-07-26T02:36:49","slug":"empowering-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=575","title":{"rendered":"Empowering Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Recognize that what your partner does is <\/em>a <em>problem, but it&#8217;s not <\/em>the <em>problem.\u00c2\u00a0 The <\/em>problem is how <em>you <\/em>react to what your partner does.\u00c2\u00a0 If you make your partner <em>the <\/em>problem, all you can do is hope that he changes or try to get him to change.\u00c2\u00a0 That&#8217;s a disempowered position.\u00c2\u00a0 As you increase your ability to respond to the negative things your partner does, you are going to empower yourself and increase your own self-esteem.\u00c2\u00a0 This single concept is the driving principle behind almost all books on improving relationships.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Ellyn Bader, PhD, and Peter T. Pearson, PhD, <em>Tell Me No Lies, <\/em>p. 141<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Recognize that what your partner does is a problem, but it&#8217;s not the problem.\u00c2\u00a0 The problem is how you react to what your partner does.\u00c2\u00a0 If you make your partner the problem, all you can do is hope that he changes or try to get him to change.\u00c2\u00a0 That&#8217;s a disempowered position.\u00c2\u00a0 As you increase [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,19,14,27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-575","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-letting-go","category-marriage","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/575","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=575"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/575\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=575"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=575"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=575"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}