{"id":59,"date":"2007-09-03T10:56:09","date_gmt":"2007-09-03T14:56:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2007\/09\/03\/the-flip-side-of-forgiveness\/"},"modified":"2007-09-03T10:56:09","modified_gmt":"2007-09-03T14:56:09","slug":"the-flip-side-of-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=59","title":{"rendered":"The Flip Side of Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;The road to psychological <strong>ruin<\/strong> begins with <strong>blame<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The road to psychological <strong>power <\/strong>begins with <strong>responsibility.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;You cannot blame and find good solutions at the same time&#8230;.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Blame is always about the <strong>past.\u00c2\u00a0 <\/strong>Solutions must occur in the <strong>present <\/strong>and <strong>future.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Blame obscures solutions by <em>locking you into the problem <\/em>and by focusing attention on damage, injury, defects, and weakness, on what is <em>wrong.\u00c2\u00a0 <\/em>Blame makes you feel like a <strong>powerless <\/strong>victim.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Steven Stosny, <em>The Powerful Self, <\/em>p. 112<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;The road to psychological ruin begins with blame. &#8220;The road to psychological power begins with responsibility. &#8220;You cannot blame and find good solutions at the same time&#8230;. &#8220;Blame is always about the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Solutions must occur in the present and future. &#8220;Blame obscures solutions by locking you into the problem and by focusing attention on [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-59","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=59"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=59"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=59"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=59"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}