{"id":5980,"date":"2018-09-26T22:51:35","date_gmt":"2018-09-27T02:51:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=5980"},"modified":"2018-09-26T22:52:10","modified_gmt":"2018-09-27T02:52:10","slug":"breaking-resentments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=5980","title":{"rendered":"Breaking Resentments"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Salzberg-6.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Salzberg-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-7166\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Salzberg-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Salzberg-6-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Salzberg-6-768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>When we forgive someone, we don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t pretend that the harm didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t happen or cause us pain.  We see it clearly for what it was, but we also come to see that fixating on the memory of harm generates anger and sadness.  Those feelings then prevent us from savoring the love and joy available to us right now.  Forgiveness is the way we break the grip that long-held resentments have on our hearts.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Sharon Salzberg, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sonderbooks.com\/Nonfiction\/real_love.html\">Real Love<\/a><\/em>, p. 193<\/p>\n<p>Photo: Prague, July 16, 2004<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When we forgive someone, we don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t pretend that the harm didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t happen or cause us pain. We see it clearly for what it was, but we also come to see that fixating on the memory of harm generates anger and sadness. Those feelings then prevent us from savoring the love and joy available to us [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,8,15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5980","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-joy","category-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5980","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5980"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5980\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5980"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5980"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5980"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}