{"id":636,"date":"2008-10-09T18:37:26","date_gmt":"2008-10-09T22:37:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/10\/09\/forgiveness-and-boundaries\/"},"modified":"2008-10-09T18:37:26","modified_gmt":"2008-10-09T22:37:26","slug":"forgiveness-and-boundaries","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=636","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness and Boundaries"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Warning:\u00c2\u00a0 <em>Forgiveness and opening up to more abuse are not the same thing.\u00c2\u00a0 <\/em>Forgiveness has to do with the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Reconciliation and boundaries have to do with the future.\u00c2\u00a0 Limits guard my property until someone has repented and can be trusted to visit again.\u00c2\u00a0 And if they sin, I will forgive again, seventy times seven.\u00c2\u00a0 But I want to be around people who honestly fail me, not dishonestly deny that they have hurt me and have no intent to do better.\u00c2\u00a0 That is destructive for me and for them.\u00c2\u00a0 If people are owning their sin, they are learning through failure.\u00c2\u00a0 We can ride that out.\u00c2\u00a0 They want to be better, and forgiveness will help.\u00c2\u00a0 But if someone is in denial, or only giving lip service to getting better, without trying to make changes, or seeking help, I need to keep my boundaries, even though I have forgiven them.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, <em>Boundaries, <\/em>p. 263<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Warning:\u00c2\u00a0 Forgiveness and opening up to more abuse are not the same thing.\u00c2\u00a0 Forgiveness has to do with the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Reconciliation and boundaries have to do with the future.\u00c2\u00a0 Limits guard my property until someone has repented and can be trusted to visit again.\u00c2\u00a0 And if they sin, I will forgive again, seventy times seven.\u00c2\u00a0 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,27,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-636","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-relationships","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/636","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=636"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/636\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=636"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=636"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=636"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}