{"id":663,"date":"2008-11-15T21:56:40","date_gmt":"2008-11-16T01:56:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2008\/11\/15\/blame\/"},"modified":"2008-11-15T21:56:40","modified_gmt":"2008-11-16T01:56:40","slug":"blame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=663","title":{"rendered":"Blame"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Blame is a way we lie to ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 It is not just a way of refusing to look at who we are or avoiding responsibility.\u00c2\u00a0 It is also a defense against knowing our pain.\u00c2\u00a0 To face that pain is to begin to mourn what was too overwhelming to be mourned before.\u00c2\u00a0 To face it and not blame it on the person who happened to stir it up is certainly the road less taken.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Robert Karen, PhD, <em>The Forgiving Self, <\/em>p. 36-37<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Blame is a way we lie to ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 It is not just a way of refusing to look at who we are or avoiding responsibility.\u00c2\u00a0 It is also a defense against knowing our pain.\u00c2\u00a0 To face that pain is to begin to mourn what was too overwhelming to be mourned before.\u00c2\u00a0 To face it and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-663","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-healing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/663","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=663"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/663\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=663"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=663"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=663"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}