{"id":7004,"date":"2018-08-31T22:39:29","date_gmt":"2018-09-01T02:39:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=7004"},"modified":"2018-08-31T22:39:29","modified_gmt":"2018-09-01T02:39:29","slug":"secret-of-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=7004","title":{"rendered":"Secret of Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/Stosny-7.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/Stosny-7.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-7008\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/Stosny-7.jpg 400w, https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/Stosny-7-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The secret of forgiveness, regardless of whether you want to use it as a method of detachment or as a way to fortify your relationship after repair, is to focus not on the offensive behavior, but on freeing yourself of the emotional pain you experienced as a result of the behavior.<\/p>\n<p>The most severe aspect of emotional pain is the sense of powerlessness it engenders.  Intentional forgiveness helps you take back power over your emotional life.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Steven Stosny, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sonderbooks.com\/Nonfiction\/living_and_loving_after_betrayal.html\">Living and Loving After Betrayal<\/a><\/em>, p. 230<\/p>\n<p>Photo: Notre Dame, Paris, April 2001<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The secret of forgiveness, regardless of whether you want to use it as a method of detachment or as a way to fortify your relationship after repair, is to focus not on the offensive behavior, but on freeing yourself of the emotional pain you experienced as a result of the behavior. The most severe aspect [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7004","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forgiveness","category-healing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7004","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7004"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7004\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7004"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7004"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7004"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}