If others do change because of something we said or did, which sometimes happens, we feel validated and this validation boosts our self-confidence.\u00c2\u00a0 Unfortunately, it also encourages us to repeat our behavior relentlessly.\u00c2\u00a0 Face it.\u00c2\u00a0 Others change only because they want to.\u00c2\u00a0 Not because we want them to.<\/p>\n
So why do we incessantly try to do the impossible?\u00c2\u00a0 After years of observation, coupled with my own unyielding commitment to changing this behavior in myself, I have concluded that we attempt to control as a way of quelling the threat we feel when our companions have opinions or attitudes or behaviors that differ from our own.\u00c2\u00a0 The greater the threat, the more we try to control.<\/p>\n
But what we discover when we give up trying to control everybody and everything is that we suddenly have the time and opportunity to learn and change and grow within ourselves, so that we can progress to the next level of spiritual awareness that awaits us.<\/p>\n
A surprise benefit, too, is that by letting go, moving on, and living our own lives peacefully and with intention, we often inspire others to change in the very ways we want them to change.\u00c2\u00a0 Ironic, isn’t it?…<\/p>\n
Being powerless over others is one of the best gifts we have been given on this journey.\u00c2\u00a0 Trust me.\u00c2\u00a0 You will be grateful, in time.<\/p>\n
— Karen Casey, Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow, <\/em>p. 66-68<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If others do change because of something we said or did, which sometimes happens, we feel validated and this validation boosts our self-confidence.\u00c2\u00a0 Unfortunately, it also encourages us to repeat our behavior relentlessly.\u00c2\u00a0 Face it.\u00c2\u00a0 Others change only because they want to.\u00c2\u00a0 Not because we want them to. So why do we incessantly try to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19,9,27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-731","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letting-go","category-life","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/731","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=731"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/731\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=731"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=731"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=731"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}