{"id":749,"date":"2009-03-12T23:04:29","date_gmt":"2009-03-13T03:04:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2009\/03\/12\/when-there-are-not-two-sides\/"},"modified":"2009-03-12T23:04:29","modified_gmt":"2009-03-13T03:04:29","slug":"when-there-are-not-two-sides","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=749","title":{"rendered":"When There Are Not Two Sides"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There are not two sides.\u00c2\u00a0 Abuse is not a conflict.\u00c2\u00a0 It is not a fight. . . .<\/p>\n<p>When a child is molested or abused, there are not two sides.\u00c2\u00a0 Similarly, when an adult is verbally abused and threatened, there are not two sides.\u00c2\u00a0 One person is not attacking and the other counterattacking.\u00c2\u00a0 On the contrary, one is trying to understand and not upset the other, whose behavior is directed toward maintaining <em>control <\/em>and <em>dominance <\/em>with overt or covert attacks.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Patricia Evans, <em>Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, <\/em>p. 98<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are not two sides.\u00c2\u00a0 Abuse is not a conflict.\u00c2\u00a0 It is not a fight. . . . When a child is molested or abused, there are not two sides.\u00c2\u00a0 Similarly, when an adult is verbally abused and threatened, there are not two sides.\u00c2\u00a0 One person is not attacking and the other counterattacking.\u00c2\u00a0 On the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,27,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-749","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-healing","category-relationships","category-truth"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/749","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=749"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/749\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=749"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=749"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=749"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}