{"id":86,"date":"2007-09-14T13:44:59","date_gmt":"2007-09-14T17:44:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2007\/09\/14\/control-is-an-illusion\/"},"modified":"2007-09-14T13:44:59","modified_gmt":"2007-09-14T17:44:59","slug":"control-is-an-illusion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=86","title":{"rendered":"Control Is an Illusion."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;People ultimately do what they want to do.\u00c2\u00a0 They feel how they want to feel (or how they are feeling); they think what they want to think; they do the things they believe they need to do; and they will only change when they are ready to change.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn&#8217;t matter if they&#8217;re wrong and we&#8217;re right.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn&#8217;t matter if they&#8217;re hurting themselves.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn&#8217;t matter that we could help them if they&#8217;d only listen to, and cooperate with us.\u00c2\u00a0 IT DOESN&#8217;T MATTER, DOESN&#8217;T MATTER, DOESN&#8217;T MATTER.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Melody Beattie, <em>Codependent No More,<\/em> p. 74<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;People ultimately do what they want to do.\u00c2\u00a0 They feel how they want to feel (or how they are feeling); they think what they want to think; they do the things they believe they need to do; and they will only change when they are ready to change.\u00c2\u00a0 It doesn&#8217;t matter if they&#8217;re wrong and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-86","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letting-go"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/86","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=86"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/86\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=86"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=86"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=86"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}