{"id":8690,"date":"2020-12-15T22:39:08","date_gmt":"2020-12-16T02:39:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=8690"},"modified":"2020-12-15T22:39:08","modified_gmt":"2020-12-16T02:39:08","slug":"being-gentle-with-ourselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=8690","title":{"rendered":"Being Gentle with Ourselves"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Kolber-5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Kolber-5.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"533\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8879\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Kolber-5.jpg 400w, https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Kolber-5-225x300.jpg 225w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Trying softer isn&#8217;t about <em>knowing<\/em> or <em>doing<\/em> the right thing; it&#8217;s about being gentle with ourselves in the face of pain that is keeping us stuck.  Because no matter how hard we try, we can&#8217;t hate or shame ourselves into change.  Only love can move us toward true growth.  This is the love given to us by a gentle, kind, compassionate, good God &#8212; and the love we are invited to give ourselves too.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Aundi Kolber, <em>Try Softer<\/em>, p. 193-194<\/p>\n<p>Photo: South Riding, Virginia, December 13, 2020<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Trying softer isn&#8217;t about knowing or doing the right thing; it&#8217;s about being gentle with ourselves in the face of pain that is keeping us stuck. Because no matter how hard we try, we can&#8217;t hate or shame ourselves into change. Only love can move us toward true growth. This is the love given to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35,21,15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8690","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-growth","category-healing","category-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8690","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8690"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8690\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8880,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8690\/revisions\/8880"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8690"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8690"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8690"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}