{"id":87,"date":"2007-09-15T17:28:56","date_gmt":"2007-09-15T21:28:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2007\/09\/15\/codependent-rescuing\/"},"modified":"2007-09-15T17:35:40","modified_gmt":"2007-09-15T21:35:40","slug":"codependent-rescuing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=87","title":{"rendered":"Codependent Rescuing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;<em>Rescuing<\/em> and <em>caretaking <\/em>mean what they sound like.\u00c2\u00a0 We rescue people from their responsibilities.\u00c2\u00a0 We take care of people&#8217;s responsibilities for them.\u00c2\u00a0 Later we get mad at <em>them<\/em> for what <em>we&#8217;ve<\/em> done.\u00c2\u00a0 Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 That is the pattern, the triangle&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Caretaking doesn&#8217;t help; it causes problems.\u00c2\u00a0 When we take care of people and do things we don&#8217;t want to do, we ignore personal needs, wants, and feelings.\u00c2\u00a0 We put <em>ourselves<\/em> aside.\u00c2\u00a0 Sometimes, we get so busy taking care of people that we put our entire lives on hold.\u00c2\u00a0 Many caretakers are harried and overcommitted; they enjoy none of their activities.\u00c2\u00a0 Caretakers look so responsible, but we aren&#8217;t.\u00c2\u00a0 We don&#8217;t assume responsibility for our highest responsibility &#8212; ourselves.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Melody Beattie, <em>Codependent No More,<\/em> p. 78 &#038; 83<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Rescuing and caretaking mean what they sound like.\u00c2\u00a0 We rescue people from their responsibilities.\u00c2\u00a0 We take care of people&#8217;s responsibilities for them.\u00c2\u00a0 Later we get mad at them for what we&#8217;ve done.\u00c2\u00a0 Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 That is the pattern, the triangle&#8230;. &#8220;Caretaking doesn&#8217;t help; it causes problems.\u00c2\u00a0 When we take [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letting-go"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=87"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=87"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=87"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=87"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}