{"id":88,"date":"2007-09-15T17:34:42","date_gmt":"2007-09-15T21:34:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/2007\/09\/15\/letting-people-solve-their-own-problems\/"},"modified":"2007-09-15T17:34:42","modified_gmt":"2007-09-15T21:34:42","slug":"letting-people-solve-their-own-problems","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=88","title":{"rendered":"Letting People Solve Their Own Problems"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Sometimes we rescue because it’s easier than dealing with the discomfort and awkwardness of facing other people’s unsolved problems.\u00c2\u00a0 We haven’t learned to say, ‘It’s too bad you’re having that problem.\u00c2\u00a0 What do you need from me?’\u00c2\u00a0 We’ve learned to say, ‘Here.\u00c2\u00a0 Let me do that for<\/em> you.'”<\/p>\n

— Melody Beattie, Codependent No More,<\/em> p. 84-85.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Sometimes we rescue because it’s easier than dealing with the discomfort and awkwardness of facing other people’s unsolved problems.\u00c2\u00a0 We haven’t learned to say, ‘It’s too bad you’re having that problem.\u00c2\u00a0 What do you need from me?’\u00c2\u00a0 We’ve learned to say, ‘Here.\u00c2\u00a0 Let me do that for you.’” — Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, p. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-88","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letting-go"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=88"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=88"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=88"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=88"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}