{"id":9043,"date":"2021-06-03T22:36:29","date_gmt":"2021-06-04T02:36:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=9043"},"modified":"2021-06-03T22:36:29","modified_gmt":"2021-06-04T02:36:29","slug":"joy-as-antidote","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/?p=9043","title":{"rendered":"Joy as Antidote"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/Nouwen-6.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/Nouwen-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-9044\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/Nouwen-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/Nouwen-6-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/Nouwen-6-768x576.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Of one thing I am sure.  Complaining is self-perpetuating and counterproductive.  Whenever I express my complaints in the hope of evoking pity and receiving the satisfaction I so much desire, the result is always the opposite of what I tried to get.  A complainer is hard to live with, and very few people know how to respond to the complaints made by a self-rejecting person.  The tragedy is that, often, the complaint, once expressed, leads to that which is most feared: further rejection. . . .  Joy and resentment cannot coexist.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212; Henri J. M. Nouwen, <em>You Are Beloved<\/em>, p. 170 (from <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sonderbooks.com\/Nonfiction\/return_of_the_prodigal_son.html\">The Return of the Prodigal Son<\/a><\/em>)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Of one thing I am sure. Complaining is self-perpetuating and counterproductive. Whenever I express my complaints in the hope of evoking pity and receiving the satisfaction I so much desire, the result is always the opposite of what I tried to get. A complainer is hard to live with, and very few people know how [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9043","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-joy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9043","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9043"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9043\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9045,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9043\/revisions\/9045"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9043"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9043"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sonderbooks.com\/sonderquotes\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9043"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}