Review posted March 25, 2020.
Katherine Tegen Books (HarperCollins), 2018. 135 pages.
Starred Review
Review written October 29, 2018, from a book sent by the publisher.
2018 Sonderbooks Stand-out:
#3 Contemporary Children's Fiction
My Father’s Words is a stunningly beautiful book.
It’s a beginning chapter book about the death of a father. But it’s beautiful.
Fiona and Finn’s father Declan was a psychologist, gentle and wise. The book begins with him making omelets for his kids, and on page 7 he’s killed in a car accident.
The book is about dealing with his death.
Their mother and their friends gather round. Even one of their father’s patients helps Fiona. But the biggest help, especially for Finn, is when they go to an animal shelter and spend time with the rescue dogs.
Their father’s will said not to have a funeral, but to have a party.
The party for my father was somehow both joyful and sad, with laughter and tears all mixed up. Finn and I were confused at that. My grandparents were ill and far away and couldn’t come. My mother spoke to them every day on the phone. But cousins and aunts and uncles came. And friends.
The book is full of memories. Those are set apart in a different font. And from their father’s patients, we learn many wise things that their father said. And those wise things help them heal as well as show love and receive love from the rescue dogs.
It’s hard to explain how beautiful this little book is. But I was thoroughly blessed and uplifted by reading it.
It’s hard to recommend to young readers a book about a father dying. But this lovely book is about healing, and I think kids will respond to it. After all, they know more about sadness than we realize – so why not read about dealing with sadness?
Note: I ended up posting this review exactly six months after my own father died. When I read it, I had no idea it would so soon be so applicable. Yes, it's good to read about dealing with deep sadness and appreciating those you've loved who are no longer here.