Category: Praying with the Psalmists

Psalm 3:3-6–

But you, LORD, are a shield around me,
my glory, the One who lifts my head high.
I call out to the LORD,
and he answers me from his holy mountain.
I lie down and sleep;
I wake again, because the LORD sustains me.
I will not fear though tens of thousands
assail me on every side.

For the third Sunday of Lent in my Laments for Lent series, we’re looking at the third part of the Lament, the Confession of Trust.

Here again is the acronym I made for the parts of a Lament in Psalms:

A – Address to God
C – Complaint
C – Confession of Trust
E – Entreaty
S – Sureness of Help
S – Subsequent Praise

It doesn’t surprise anyone that Laments contain a Complaint. But right after the Complaint, or sometimes in the middle of the Complaint, it’s as if the psalmists step back, take a deep breath, and remind themselves they really do trust God, and there’s a reason they’re coming to God in prayer.

These verses are beautiful expressions of trust – coming in the midst of deep trouble.

Here are a few more examples:

Psalm 143:5-6–

I remember the days of long ago;
I meditate on all your works
and consider what your hands have done.
I spread out my hands to you;
I thirst for you like a parched land.

Psalm 74 is a group Lament from the nation of Israel. First it talks about how the nation has been ravaged and prophets are silent, and then we get this passage:

Psalm 74:12-17–

But God is my King from long ago
he brings salvation on the earth.
It was you who split open the sea by your power;
you broke the heads of the monster in the waters.
It was you who crushed the heads of Leviathan
and gave it as food to the creatures of the desert.
It was you who opened up springs and streams;
you dried up the ever-flowing rivers.
The day is yours, and yours also the night;
you established the sun and moon.
It was you who set all the boundaries of the earth;
you made both summer and winter.

Psalm 42 and 43 make a Lament together, and the Confession of Trust is a repeated refrain:

Psalm 42:5 & 11 and 43:5—

Why, my soul, are you downcast?
Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
For I will yet praise him,
My Savior and my God.

Another comforting one:
Psalm 56:3-4—

When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise –
In God I trust and am not afraid.
What can mere mortals do to me?

And I’ll finish with a simple one:
Psalm 54:4—

Surely God is my help;
The Lord is the one who sustains me.

Again, not every Lament in Psalms has every part, sometimes the parts merge together, and sometimes they’re in a different order or parts are split up (the most common way having some more of the Complaint after a Confession of Trust). But you will find a theme that even in a hard time, after pouring out their hearts about their troubles, psalmists will remind themselves of God’s faithfulness and that they really do trust God – when they stop to think about it.

And that’s what I’d like to get out of the Laments this week. Don’t be afraid to pour out your heart to God in Complaint – but also take a minute and remember God’s faithfulness. Do you trust God? Take a moment to express that. It will calm your heart and help you be ready for the Entreaty – asking God to act.

As always, my hope is that you’ll try this form in your own prayers, so I’ll offer an example.

This week, I’m still thinking about politics and the horror that my own government is grabbing people without a trial or a warrant or any kind of hearing and sending them to El Salvador to be imprisoned and tortured, without a call to a lawyer or any notification of their loved ones. I’m going to pray for those people, made in God’s image, that this evil would stop.

Lord, hear our prayer,
and listen to our cry.

Humans, made in your image,
with families and loved ones
maybe some criminals, but maybe not,
maybe some gang members, but maybe not,
maybe people seeking a safer home,
maybe people looking for a better life,
maybe people here legally,
maybe people whose legal status was revoked–
but we don’t know any of it,
because they’ve been abducted in secret
with no warrant,
with no hearing,
with no trial,
with no due process of any kind,
with no regard for their human rights.

And they’re powerless to stop it;
and we feel powerless to stop it, too.
And a judge tried to stop it –
but is he powerless, too?

Father, if you see a sparrow fall
and know the number of hairs on each of our heads,
then you know the name of each one imprisoned
and you know every heart’s anguish and hear their cries.

O Lord, please act!
Please work in the hearts of your children
not to harden their hearts
because a politician told them to.
Show us how to speak;
show us how to act
to be able to stand against injustice
and bring the powerful to account.

Lord, I look forward to seeing your hand at work,
to seeing justice win victories large and small.
(May that justice come sooner rather than later.)

And may I remember to praise you after each victory, big or small,
and look forward to the day when the leaves of the tree of life
will bring healing to all the nations.
Even so, bring that healing, Lord.

[Forgive me, but this picture of a heron on a gray day suits my mood, which fits the Complaint part of a Lament.]

Psalm 55:4-8–

My heart is in anguish within me;
the terrors of death have fallen on me.
Fear and trembling have beset me;
horror has overwhelmed me.
I said, “Oh, that I had the wings of a dove!
I would fly away and be at rest.
I would flee far away and stay in the desert;
I would hurry to my place of shelter,
far from the tempest and storm.”

For the second Sunday of Lent in my Laments for Lent series, we’re looking at the second part of a Lament, the Complaint.

Here again is my acronym for the parts of a Lament:
A – Address to God
C – Complaint
C – Confession of Trust
E – Entreaty
S – Sureness of Help
S – Subsequent Praise

You’ll find the form is very loose for Laments in Psalms – but what they all have in common is the Complaint.

The Complaint usually comes after the Address to God, but sometimes the psalmist jumps right into the Complaint. Some that begin with questions combine the Address to God with the Complaint:

Psalm 13:1-2–

How long, LORD? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
How long will my enemy triumph over me?

The passage I quoted at the top of this post is only a small part of the Complaint from Psalm 55. The psalmist weaves a Complaint through all the other parts, coming back to it more than once.

And the main way the Psalms of Repentance are different from the Laments is in the Complaint section. In these Psalms, instead of the Complaint, there’s a Confession of Sin – now the trouble the psalmist is in is their own fault.

Here’s an example from a beautiful Psalm of Repentance:

Psalm 51:3-5–

For I know my transgressions
and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

As gloomy as the Complaints sound when taken out of the rest of the Laments – they inspire me.

Because the Complaints in Laments decisively give the lie to the idea that we can only bring a happy face when we come before God, that acknowledging negative emotions means we’re lacking in trust.

No! If the psalmists can bring such gloom to God, then surely I can tell the Lord how I really feel.

It’s tricky to talk about this part of Laments, because most of the Complaint sections are not short. The psalmists really do tend to go on with this part. But you know what? That means that we can too, if that’s what we need. We can open our hearts and pour it all out to the Lord.

Here’s a list of Psalms I categorized as Laments: Psalms 3, 4, 5, 10, 12, 13, 17, 22, 28, 35, 42, 43, 54, 55, 56, 59, 60, 61, 64, 70, 74, 79, 80, 83, 85, 86, 88, 102, 109, 137, 140, 142, and 143.

And the Psalms of Repentance: Psalms 6, 32, 38, 41, 51, 69, and 130.

So you see there are many to choose from. Read a few and notice the Complaint sections. Some of them sound a little whiny! But we’re allowed to be whiny to God!

And again, though the psalmists don’t precisely follow the form I’ve given for a Lament, they loosely do. But it makes a good list for us to follow in our prayers – no, not necessarily every time, but as a helpful tool when you have something to lament.

And again, my main goal in writing my book and these posts is to get others to try using these patterns from Psalms in their own prayers.

And each week I’ll give you a sample lament.

Today, though what I feel most grumpy about is my broken pinky finger, my heart is heavy because of the news of what our leaders are doing. My plan in writing an example psalm was to focus on current issues from today, and pull in some actual Complaints from the Laments in Psalms. But as I started doing that, Psalm 10 ended up hijacking the whole thing.

But I figure that’s all good. Another kind of example. I’ll leave in my beginning so you know what I’m thinking about when I use the words of the Psalm.

I do know that as soon as tomorrow, there will be more issues heavy on my heart, so I’m going to call this example:

A Lament for March 16, 2025:

Lord, I lift my voice to you;
I write this lament to you
and ask that you listen to my prayer
and hear my cry.

Lord, it seems that no one can stop the people in charge –
an urgent court order was ignored.
People are being disappeared and deported
without a warrant
and without due process.

“Not a word from their mouths can be trusted;
their heart is filled with malice.
Their throat is an open grave;
with their tongues they tell lies.” [Psalm 5]

[And now from Psalm 10:]
“In his arrogance the wicked man hunts down the weak,
who are caught in the schemes he devises.
He boasts about the cravings of his heart;
he blesses the greedy and reviles the LORD.
In his pride the wicked man does not seek him;
in all his thoughts there is no room for God.
His ways are always prosperous;
your laws are rejected by him;
he sneers at all his enemies.
He says to himself, “Nothing will ever shake me.”
He swears, “No one will ever do me harm.”

His mouth is full of lies and threats;
trouble and evil are under his tongue.
He lies in wait near the villages;
from ambush he murders the innocent.
His eyes watch in secret for his victims;
like a lion in cover he lies in wait.
He lies in wait to catch the helpless;
he catches the helpless and drags them off in his net.
His victims are crushed, they collapse;
they fall under his strength.
He says to himself, “God will never notice;
he covers his face and never sees.”

Arise, LORD! Lift up your hand, O God!
Do not forget the helpless.
Why does the wicked man revile God?
Why does he say to himself,
“He won’t call me to account”?
But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted;
you consider their grief and take it in hand.
The victims commit themselves to you;
you are the helper of the fatherless.
Break the arm of the wicked man;
call the evildoer to account for his wickedness
that would not otherwise be found out.
. . .
You, LORD, hear the desire of the afflicted;
you encourage them, and you listen to their cry,
defending the fatherless and the oppressed,
so that mere earthly mortals
will never again strike terror.”

Lord God, you’ve told us not to rejoice
when our personal enemy stumbles,
but may we live to see
the oppressor brought low,
and the greedy tyrant thwarted,
and may our hearts be glad
and our tongues praise you.

You all know who I’m talking about. See how applicable Psalms can be? But something I like about Psalms is they show us we don’t have to hold back when praying against evil – but they also remind us that God is bigger. I do believe that Good will win in the end – I only hope it will be sooner rather than later.

And I hope that God’s people are praying for justice. I hope that my small contribution encourages you to do so.

Psalm 5:1-3–

Listen to my words, LORD,
consider my lament.
Hear my cry for help,
my King and my God,
for to you I pray.

In the morning, LORD, you hear my voice;
in the morning I lay my requests before you
and wait expectantly.

I’m writing a series Laments for Lent, and each week I will talk about one part of a Lament found in Psalms. I do encourage you to read the entire Psalm – we’re going to focus on one part.

Here’s an acronym for the form of a Lament:
A – Address to God
C – Complaint
C – Confession of Trust
E – Entreaty
S – Sureness of Help
S – Subsequent Praise

First, let me say that this is a very loose form – with few of the Laments having all the parts. However, you will find most of the parts in most of the Laments, and usually in that general order. More important is that the form makes a nice pattern for us to use in our prayers.

This week, we’re looking at the first part of most Laments – the Address to God.

This beginning doesn’t happen in all the Laments – some go straight to the Complaint. And you will find similar words in Psalms of other types – but this is a common beginning to these Laments where the psalmists are turning to God in a time of trouble.

The Address to God is what it says it is – telling God you’re here and asking God to hear your prayer. I love the one above from Psalm 5, especially because those are the words of a chorus I’ve sung since high school.

And when better to come to God than in a time of trouble? As the season of Lent begins, may we purpose in our hearts that the Lord will hear our voice in the morning.

Here are some more beginnings of Laments. Notice the parallelism we talked about last time.

Psalm 88:1-2–

LORD, you are the God who saves me;
day and night I cry out to you.
May my prayer come before you;
turn your ear to my cry.

Psalm 102:1-2–

Hear my prayer, Lord;
let my cry for help come to you.
Do not hide your face from me
when I am in distress.
Turn your ear to me;
when I call, answer me quickly.

[This is the point in writing this post where I broke my left pinky finger and typing got harder. I may rethink this blog series, but want to at least finish this post.]

Psalms of Repentance have a similar form to Laments, but their address to God usually starts right off asking for mercy.

Psalm 51:1-3–

Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion,
blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
and cleanse me from my sin.

Psalm 38:1–

Lord, do not rebuke me in your anger
or discipline me in your wrath.

And then there are the Laments that address God with a question. I go back and forth between thinking they just went straight to the Complaint and thinking yes, this is a different kind of Address to God.

Psalm 10:1–

Why, Lord, do you stand far off?
Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?

Psalm 13:1–

How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?

And of course we can’t leave out this one:
Psalm 22:1–

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?
Why are you so far from saving me,
so far from my cries of anguish?

So my thoughts about this part of the Lament are these:
We can come before God.
We can come asking for mercy when we don’t feel like we deserve God’s favor.
We can even come to God with our angry questions. (And be sure to read the rest of those Psalms – they don’t end angry.)

Myself, I’ve gotten a habit of starting my prayers with “Dear Heavenly Father…” Think about mixing it up a little and starting your prayers with an Address to God like one of the ones above

For an example lament this week, even though I have plenty of questions about the political situation, I’m going to go petty this time with a smaller concern, trying to make the point that we can bring anything to God.

Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love.

Father, I feel so foolish.
I should have paid more attention.
I tripped on a crack in the sidewalk
and broke my left pinky finger.
Now it hurts to type,
so my plans for a blog series for Lent,
catching up on posting reviews,
posting Sonderbooks25
are going to be tougher.
For that matter, even washing dishes
and getting dressed
has become tougher.
And who am I to complain
when literally any other finger
would have been much worse?

But Lord Christ, I believe that you have lessons for me
when I fall on my face.
And I know you have compassion.
You never forgot that I am dust
and fallible –
but I have trouble remembering
and have now been reminded.

Jesus, grant me your peace.
Holy Spirit grant me healing and grace.
I suspect that dealing with my new limitations
will be tougher for me than dealing with pain.
Grant me that wisdom
and a sense of humor
and the joy of letting myself off the hook
for getting quite so much done.

Lord, I learned that my Mother once broke her left pinky finger, too.
And she said you don’t really appreciate your left pinky finger
until it’s hurting.
Just like you pointed out
that every member of the body of Christ
is important.
May I play my small part
and appreciate the other members of the body
who help me out when I’m hurting.

And may I remember,
when the splint comes off,
to thank you for my left pinky finger
and wiggle it with joy!

The above is offered as evidence that when you use the Lament form, the result doesn’t have to be profound!

I’m hoping next week to talk about Part 2 – the Complaint.

Psalm 103:8-18 (New International Version):

The LORD is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

As a father has compassion on his children,
so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;
for he knows how we are formed,
he remembers that we are dust.
The life of mortals is like grass,
they flourish like a flower of the field;
the wind blows over it and it is gone,
and its place remembers it no more.
But from everlasting to everlasting
the Lord’s love is with those who fear him,
and his righteousness with their children’s children —
with those who keep his covenant
and remember to obey his precepts.

Okay, I’m cheating a little here. I’m beginning a series called Laments for Lent (Here’s my Intro post.) – and I’m beginning with Psalm 103, which is not a Lament, but a Psalm of Praise.

But this is my post for Ash Wednesday. (Yes, I know it’s happening Wednesday and Lent hasn’t started yet – but on Wednesday I’ll be going straight from work to singing in the choir for an Ash Wednesday service, so I thought I’d go ahead and post today.) And on Ash Wednesday, we think about how we came from dust and will return to dust. We also examine ourselves and repent of our sins.

And I want to encourage everyone: The Lord remembers that we are dust. We’re not surprising God with our failures and foibles. The Lord has compassion on us.

One of my favorite writers is the Irish mystic Lorna Byrne, and she says that in God’s eyes, we all are children. This matches what Psalm 103 teaches. When a toddler learning to walk stumbles, do good parents scold and berate them? No! God is a Father who has compassion on us, with love higher than the heavens.

I’m also using this passage as an introduction to Psalms. For the rest of Lent, I’m going to be looking at Laments and Psalms of Confession, but first let me point out the parallelism in Psalms. Hebrew poetry, rather than rhyming, takes the form of parallelism – a wonderfully translatable form. And yes, there are nuances in the original language, but speaking generally, ideas are repeated and lines mirror each other. Look at the parallelism in these lines:

He will not always accuse;
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.

In the next verses, two lines are reflected at a time:

For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

Psalm 103 became my favorite 20 years ago after I found out my then-husband was seeing another woman behind my back. (I didn’t know then that it was actually an affair.) You’d think that would have filled him with shame, and it probably did. But his reaction was to tell me all the ways I was a terrible wife and he was “forced” to look elsewhere for “friendship.” And that I did not deserve his love or affection.

And the sad part of the story is that I bought it. Mind you, almost all his accusations were based in truth – he listed off things I’d done or said in anger over 18 years of marriage. Never mind if I hadn’t intended them as harsh as the way they’d come out. Never mind if I’d apologized. I was told that I was a terrible person and not even a good friend to my husband and didn’t deserve love.

And I was used to believing my husband. I thought he loved me. I knew I was a lovable person because he loved me. And he hadn’t clued me in on how hurt he was by the things I’d done and said until it all came out after I found out about him seeing this “friend” behind my back.  So I believed him that my terrible actions and words had destroyed my own marriage and hurt the one I loved most.

But in my devastation, thank God I came across this passage.

God will not always accuse.
The Lord will not harbor his anger forever.

I was told I didn’t deserve love. Well,
the Lord does not treat me as my sins deserve.

And now, twenty years later, happily single – sometimes I see friends agonizing over their own shortcomings. It seems like they think God is like my ex-husband, parceling out love only if we deserve it.

But no, God is like a good Father, having compassion on God’s children far greater than an earthly parent’s love.

And the Lord remembers that we are dust. Our mistakes don’t surprise God the way they do us. They don’t make God lash out in anger. Instead, like a Father or like a Mother, the Lord shows us compassion and helps us do better.

So those are my thoughts for Ash Wednesday and receiving the ashes.

In the upcoming series, for the remaining six Sundays of Lent plus Easter, I’m going to look at each of the parts of a Lament. I’ve made an acronym to help remember them:

A – Address to God
C – Complaint
C – Confession of Trust
E – Entreaty
S – Sureness of Help
S – Subsequent Praise

I also – always – am about encouraging folks to write their own psalms. For this introductory week, think about trying a little parallelism in your prayers. Pray a request, and then think of another way to say it. If nothing else, it helps slow things down and makes your prayer more meditative.

I’m going to close by writing a short sample lament. Wanting to keep it short, I will not go into as much detail as many of the Psalms do. I’m thinking of all my neighbors and friends who are federal employees facing chaos, so here’s a lament for them, including the seven parts.

Lord, I come before you
as a child to a compassionate parent.
I know that you hear;
I believe that you listen.

Lord, our government is in chaos;
norms and rules are being ignored.
People are losing their jobs willy-nilly,
with no notice
with no severance
with no chance to prepare.
Lives are being upended
and people don’t know where to turn.
Even worse is all the good work
being disregarded and denigrated
as if hard work serving others
is all a grift to steal from the very people they serve.

Father, we do trust you.
If you see the sparrow fall,
then you know about each life
facing the difficulties of job loss
or the withdrawal of benefits
depended on to get out of a hard space.

Lord, we ask you to act!
We ask you to work for justice!
Help those who have been wrongfully terminated,
those who have been abandoned,
those wrongfully detained and deported,
and all others harmed by recent actions.

Christ, there’s so much,
we don’t even know how to respond.
Send your Spirit and show us
what we can do
to speed the cause of justice,
to help the oppressed,
to call the mighty to account,
to aid the destitute.

Lord, the arc of the universe
does bend toward justice;
the path of history
does show oppressors losing.

We will rejoice with each victory,
big or small.
And we will watch to see
all the ways you will bring triumph out of loss.

May it be so, Lord. Thank you that though we came from dust, your compassion for us never fails.

The season of Lent is almost here.

And this year it’s coming at a rough time in northern Virginia. A large proportion of the population here is federal workers and federal contractors. And they’re suddenly losing their jobs, or at the very least losing their coworkers. Many who aren’t in that category themselves have family members who are. Every single person who lives in this area knows people affected by this chaos and turmoil.

I didn’t grow up in churches that observed Lent, but even the more conservative church I joined eighteen years ago had an Ash Wednesday service, and now it’s an important part of services at the United Methodist Church I attend. As I understand it, Lent is a time of self-reflection and confession in preparation for Easter.

And it seems like a good time to think about Laments.

I wrote a book called Praying with the Psalmists that takes the reader through the entire book of Psalms in 12 weeks. My full manuscript for that book is currently being considered by an agent – so instead of dithering and spinning my wheels as to what she might be thinking about it, I’ve decided to start on my next book. And I decided a wonderful follow-up will be Laments for Lent. [I know that title won’t necessarily attract readers – most people aren’t as enamored with Laments as I am. So I’m trying to come up with a good subtitle – if you have any ideas, post them in the comments!]

I love the Laments in Psalms, which may come as a surprise to folks not familiar with them. Here’s the thing: Laments prove that God can handle our pain. Laments prove that we don’t have to always wear a happy face when we approach God in prayer.

But besides that, Laments are surprisingly faith-building, surprisingly full of trust. The Laments in Scripture follow a specific form – and the form itself includes reminders that, though times are hard, we really do trust God. In fact, a large number finish off by visualizing how happy they’re going to be when God acts.

So – Laments seem all the more appropriate for this time we find ourselves in. So much is going wrong, it’s hard to keep track of it all. And going through the parts of a Lament during this Lenten season I hope will help me bring the troubles before God and encourage me at the same time. And I hope that sharing these thoughts will help others, too.

My plan for the book Laments for Lent is a smaller scope than Praying with the Psalmists. I’m thinking it will be a series of daily devotionals for the 40 days of Lent plus Sundays, and each day we’ll look at one of the Laments or Psalms of Confession. And each week we’ll look at a different part of a Lament and think about opening our own hearts to God.

For the blog series, I’m not going to post daily, but I would like to post weekly. I’m thinking sort of a rough draft/initial plan for what the book will be about, sketching out the themes I’ll hit with each week’s devotionals. I’m going to try to post every Sunday during Lent, and by the end I should have an idea if I’ve really got enough to say for a book. I’m also hoping I’ll get plenty of comments and feedback to direct that project.

And this introductory post has gotten longer than I intended – I was going to lead right into an Ash Wednesday post. But why don’t I leave this as an introduction and I’ll come back for Ash Wednesday, beginning with words from Psalms.