This is another post about a strategy for dealing with loneliness. It’s tied in with being grateful and enjoying the moment.
I was walking around my lake yesterday morning.
And I began to imagine what my life will be like if I do find a wonderful man and marry him. The fact is, I know if that happens, no matter how wonderful the man, there will be things about my life now that I will miss.
And isn’t that true about all the past stages of your life? It is for me. There’s something I miss about every one. Even the most horrible time in my life when my ex-husband was in the process of leaving me — my girlfriends really rallied round and supported me, and I felt very loved. I had daily quiet times without fail and with a sense of desperation, and I also felt loved and cared for by God.
Of course, other stages are much easier to be nostalgic about — when my kids were young and we’d climb the mountain behind our house after dinner most days, for example. Visiting castles in Germany. Being a young carefree college student. Even when I was recovering from my stroke, I had something to focus on other than my divorce. And received wonderful loving care.
Funny how no matter how many difficulties — there are still things to be nostalgic about.
So one way to practice gratitude is think — What about today will I be nostalgic about in five years?
And then ENJOY it!
I do not believe a person should ever ever ever pray for patience. Instead, you should pray to ENJOY the time God is giving you right now.
I admit, there are times I wish God would hurry up if He’s going to bring a wonderful man into my life. But I want to make the most of this time.
After all, I know I’ll be nostalgic about it some day.
Might as well dance.
