Being able to remain calm when your wishes are unfulfilled is an essential skill in a successful marriage. If you are honest with yourself, you will agree that not getting exactly what you want from your partner is a major challenge in even a good relationship. One reason this happens is that we experience such minor disappointments on a regular basis. Our partners do things against our wishes every day, and even if they do what we want sometimes, it is not exactly the way we wanted. Learning how to cope with this successfully is essential….
Forgiving your partner does not mean you have to accept everything your lover does. It simply means you can contentedly live with your lover without getting upset every time he or she chooses to ignore your wishes.
— Dr. Fred Luskin, Forgive for Love, p. 16-17