When teenagers let themselves fall short by failing to hold onto their integrity, they simultaneously have a tremendous opportunity to reaffirm themselves and their integrity. That is, without failures, they do not learn how valuable their integrity is to their well-being. And this is the ultimate paradox of successfully raising teenagers: They need to experience a bunch of failures along the way to adulthood. And how we handle their failures and how we teach them to address these missteps is crucial.
— Michael Riera, PhD, Staying Connected to Your Teenager, p. 155