Relax

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As soon as we try to control anything, we split our mind and lose our sense of inner comfort.  We can change what we bring to the people and circumstances surrounding us, but we can’t dominate them.

Perhaps the only approach that comes remotely close to a rule of life is that when you are relaxed and flexible, you are happy; when you are rigid and controlling, you are unhappy.  Therefore, the key is actually to let go of our urge to get people to behave and events to go our way.

No matter how experienced the psychologist, how learned the theologian, how wise the philosopher, or how holy the saint, none of them can control a two-year-old.

— Hugh Prather, The Little Book of Letting Go, p. 204

Get on With Your Life

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Charlyne and I want you to “get on with your life.”  You do that by loving Jesus more each day, praying more, growing in Him, and trusting God for your every need.  We want you to be confident that God will bring about what He has promised.

— Bob Steinkamp, The Prodigal’s Pen, p. 251-252

Celebrate Small Successes

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Stop and celebrate each of those small successes, each of those little steps we take on our journey to success.  Don’t skip over them, don’t rush through them, but take time to enjoy each as it comes.  It will encourage you and, most important, it will motivate you to keep going.

— Debbie Macomber, Knit Together:  Discover God’s Pattern for Your Life, p. 67

Recovery

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“Getting our balance and keeping it once we have found it is what recovery is all about.  If that sounds like a big order, don’t worry.  We can do it.  We can learn to live again.  We can learn to love again.  We can even learn to have fun at the same time.”

— Melody Beattie, Codependent Do More, p. 214

Living Single

Letting Go, Life, Love, Peace 0

“It’s okay to be in a relationship, but it’s also okay to not be in a relationship.  Find friends to love, be loved by, and who think we are worthwhile.  Love ourselves and know we are worthwhile.  Use our time alone as a breather.  Let go.  Learn the lessons we are to be learning.  Grow.  Develop.  Work on ourselves, so when love comes along, it enhances a full and interesting life.  Love shouldn’t be the concern of our whole life or an escape from an unpleasant life.  Strive toward goals.  Have fun.  Trust God and His timing.  He cares and knows about all our needs and wants.”

— Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, p. 213-214

Have Some Fun!

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“As codependents, we need to learn to play and enjoy ourselves.  Arranging for and allowing ourselves to have fun is an important part of taking care of ourselves.  It helps us stay healthy.  It helps us work better.  It balances life….  Fun is taking time to celebrate being alive.”

–Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, p. 199

Control is an Illusion.

Letting Go, Life 0

“I’m here to say we can’t control anything.  This is why being single doesn’t give us independence, why having personal wealth doesn’t give us protection, why having raised our children doesn’t set us free, or any of the zillion other conclusions our culture draws from the assumption that the key to control is to rely on ourselves first.”

— Hugh Prather, The Little Book of Letting Go, p. 107