Learning Relationships
“Attachment is like languages — you have to tolerate feeling not good at it in order to get better at it.”
— Steven Stosny, Compassion Power Boot Camp
Category: Marriage
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A Rule of Relationships
“We like to cooperate, but hate to be controlled.”
— Steven Stosny, Compassion Power Boot Camp, September 28, 2007
Differences
“Find the person who will love you because of your differences and not in spite of them, and you have found a lover for life.”
— Leo Buscaglia, Born for Love, p. 94
Two Laws of Chronic Resentment
“There are two laws of chronic resentment. The first is, ‘Nothing is too petty to resent.’ But the second, more damaging law is, ‘Resentment always winds its way, in some form or other, to the wife or husband, no matter what stimulates it in the first place.’
— Steve Stosny, You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One, p. 24
Standing for your Marriage
“Standing for your marriage is showing unconditional love to a spouse who does not deserve your love, and trusting God to do what he has promised, changing first you, and then your spouse, to be what the Lord intends.”
— Bob Steinkamp, www.rejoiceministries.org
Lasting Love
“There is a great deal of ‘how to’ literature about keeping love alive that can be distilled into two words: persistent effort. When we are held back, pushed aside, ignored, hurt, rejected, we must be like the heart that keeps beating even in the damaged body; we must persist. If we are not prepared to be resilient in love, we need to be prepared for a short relationship!
“Nearly everyone is guilty of having thrown up their hands in despair over some seemingly loveless act or unsolvable problem in relating. Every attempt at rectifying the situation seemed to push us into another dizzying failure until we finally lost the motivation, if not the reason, to try once more.
“Since we cannot live without love, we must rise up and try again. It helps if we keep in mind that there are few obstacles that can resist perseverance, determination, patience, and most of all, more love.”
–Leo Buscaglia, Born for Love, p. 33
God’s Power to Heal
“Please, accept the word of this prodigal, without illustration, that God can solve all the problems we have created in our marriages. Our Creator knows that as human beings living in a sinful world, we often fail Him. He is ready to forgive us and rescue us and our marriages from satan.”
–Bob Steinkamp, Prodigals Do Come Home, p. 28.
A Good Marriage
“A good marriage is the union of two forgivers.”
–Ruth Graham