The story I’m going to tell is about abstract mathematics. I’m going to argue that its power and beauty lie not in the answers it provides or the problems it solves, but in the light that it sheds. That light enables us to see clearly, and that is the first step to understanding the world around us.
— Eugenia Cheng, How to Bake Pi, p. 13
We may be sure of this, that no man or woman will be condemned for any sin that is past. If he be condemned, it will be because he or she would not come to the Light when the Light came to them, because they would not learn to do as the Light instructs, because they hid their unbelief in the garment of a false faith, and would not obey.
— George MacDonald, Knowing the Heart of God, p. 42
Instead of asking yourself whether you believe or not, ask yourself whether you have this day done one single thing because he said, “Do it,” or once abstained because he said, “Do not do it.” I do not say that you will not have, as a matter of course, done this or that good thing that fell into harmony with the words of Jesus. But have you done or not done any act, as a conscious decision made because he said to do it or not?
— George MacDonald, Knowing the Heart of God, p. 30
We can never come to know Jesus as he is by believing any theory about him. What I would point people to is a faith in the living, loving, ruling, helping Christ. It is not faith that Christ did this, or that his work wrought that which will save us. Rather, it is faith in the man himself who did and is doing everything for us.
Do you ask, “What is faith in him?”
I answer, the leaving of your way, your objects, your self, and the taking of his and him; the leaving of your trust in men, in money, in opinion, in character, in religious doctrines and opinions, and then doing as Christ tells you.
I can find no words strong enough to serve for the weight of this necessity — this obedience.
— George MacDonald, Knowing the Heart of God, p. 29
The Gospel is the real antidote to spiritual destitution: wherever we go, we are called as Christians to proclaim the liberating news that forgiveness for sins committed is possible, that God is greater than our sinfulness, that he freely loves us at all times and that we were made for communion and eternal life. The Lord asks us to be joyous heralds of this message of mercy and hope! It is thrilling to experience the joy of spreading this good news, sharing the treasure entrusted to us, consoling broken hearts and offering hope to our brothers and sisters experiencing darkness. It means following and imitating Jesus, who sought out the poor and sinners as a shepherd lovingly seeks his lost sheep.
— Pope Francis, The Spirit of Saint Francis, p. 131
I prefer a Church which is bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a Church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security. I do not want a Church concerned with being at the center and then ends by being caught up in a web of obsessions and procedures. If something should rightly disturb us and trouble our consciences, it is the fact that so many of our brothers and sisters are living without the strength, light and consolation born of friendship with Jesus Christ, without a community of faith to support them, without meaning and a goal in life. More than by fear of going astray, my hope is that we will be moved by the fear of remaining shut up within structures which give us a false sense of security, within rules which make us harsh judges, within habits which make us feel safe, while at our door people are starving and Jesus does not tire of saying to us: “Give them something to eat” (Mk. 6:37).
— Pope Francis, The Spirit of Saint Francis, p. 125
It seems to me that we often, almost sulkily, reject the good that God offers us because, at that moment, we expected some other good…. On every level of our life — in our religious experience, in our gastronomic, erotic, aesthetic, and social experience — we are always harking back to some occasion which seemed to us to reach perfection, setting that up as a norm, and depreciating all other occasions by comparison. But these other occasions, I now suspect, are often full of their own new blessing, if only we would lay ourselves open to it. God shows us a new facet of the glory, and we refuse to look at it because we’re still looking for the old one. And of course we don’t get that. You can’t, at the twentieth reading, get again the experience of reading Lycidas for the first time. But what you do get can be in its own way as good.
— C. S. Lewis, Letters to Malcolm, chapter 5
And the joke, or tragedy, of it all is that these golden moments [of our past experience] which are so tormenting if we erect them into a norm, are entirely nourishing, wholesome, and enchanting if we are content to accept them for what they are, for memories. Properly bedded down in a past which we do not miserably try to conjure back, they will send up exquisite growths. Leave the bulbs alone, and the new flowers will come up. Grub them up and hope by fondling and sniffing, to get last year’s blooms, and you will get nothing. “Unless a seed die. . .”
— C. S. Lewis, Letters to Malcolm, Chapter 5
It turns out there is a brass ring, but you don’t have to compete for it. It’s yours already. The brass ring is your own deep humanity — and the relationship in which you feel treasured. No matter what you’ve been told, no matter what you’ve feared to be true, your search for love is not a race against time. It is not a hunt for a needle in the haystack. You are on a much greater journey than that. You are learning love by finding its source within you. Every insight you gain moves you closer to your goal of a wonderful life partner.
You can do this. You have the tools you need. You have the gifts that lie in the core of your heart, and you have learned to treasure their humanity and their promise. In the long run, it is the act of treasuring and the sense of being treasured that makes all the difference in the world. Trust in your gifts; they will lead you to love. It’s a promise.
— Ken Page, Deeper Dating, p. 231
Playing hard to get might be a good way to temporarily hook someone who is uncomfortable with intimacy — if that’s what you’re looking for. The myth that we should play it cool has kept many a potential relationship from being born. Most of us err on the side of believing we have to play it cool. The truth is, if you’re too good at playing it cool, that’s probably the sign of a problem. And if you’re not skilled in this art, you’ll probably “white-knuckle” your desire until you can’t hold it in any longer, and then let it all out at the moment you’d least want to. (How many times has this happened to me?)
No, the research is quite clear on this: showing someone you’re interested is one of the best ways to spark attraction. Eli Finkel, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, used speed-dating events as a vehicle to study romantic attraction. His research showed that playing hard to get is not the way to go. A key to sparking romantic attraction is to show someone that you’re interested in him in particular, not because of a generalized sense of need on your part. For example, Finkel suggests that you might convey the message “You are awesome, and I am so excited that I get to have this time with you” while also conveying the message “I have been around the block — and you’re the one that really interests me.” So, don’t hold back, let the next person you like know it — it’s an intimate and effective way to spark a new connection.
— Ken Page, Deeper Dating, p. 134