Isn’t it funny how during the honeymoon period, understanding each other is seldom a problem. “Communication skills” are highly overrated. We don’t want to understand; that’s the problem. We can’t say to our dog or baby, “I want to give you a little feedback on something you’ve been doing lately,” and yet we get along with them just fine. I know two couples who because of an accident and a stroke can’t hear or talk but still are able to move past their problems and grow in love. Work on communicating better, but also work on dwelling in love, the place of true understanding.
— Hugh Prather, Spiritual Notes to Myself, p. 48