Just as nothing can be more important to you as an individual than remaining true to your core value, nothing can be more important to you as a couple than your emotional connection to one another.
You cannot resolve disputes with someone you love while being emotionally disconnected from that person. The disconnection hurts too much and feels too much like betrayal. To have any chance of finding your way out of a power struggle, you must try hard to make connection before you even attempt to solve the problem. Your relationship has to be more important than the content of your disagreement, as does the emotional well-being of the most important adult in your life.
— Steven Stosny, You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore, p. 298