Forgiveness is more about our present life than about our past…. In my own situation, I had realized that the heart of what I was feeling was an inability to find love and happiness in my current life. I blamed the person who hurt me in the past for my unhappiness, but in fact I was upset at the condition of my life in the present. I saw that if I wanted to get better, I would have to focus more on the present and future than on the past.
— Dr. Fred Luskin, Forgive for Love, p. 34