I want to waste as little of my life as possible in the pain caused by anger and hurt. I want to react well when things do not go the way I want in my marriage. This decision will allow me to forgive myself, forgive my partner, and even forgive life itself when necessary….
Dealing with relationships is a challenge. I want to be a survivor and not a victim. Each hurtful situation challenges my determination to live as fully and lovingly as possible. I accept the challenges that life sends my way.
— Dr. Fred Luskin, Forgive for Love, p. 64