When we forget that all we can really do is hope or wish for the results we want, we make things harder for ourselves. When we forget that our ability to make our wishes come true is limited, we create grievances….
Try to remember one thing: You risk disappointment every time you want something from your partner. So much of forgiveness training involves accepting this simple fact of life.
— Dr. Fred Luskin, Forgive for Love, p. 180-182