Giving up judgmental attitudes requires that we replace them with some other attitude. Our minds will not remain idle. The best attitude to cultivate and the one that changes everything and everyone — you and all of the people you formerly judged — is gratitude. Having an attitude of gratitude is what allows us to see everyone in our path as necessary and an opportunity for us to express unconditional love. You see, judgment and love cannot coexist, and we’re expressing one or the other almost all the time. Seldom are we indifferent to our experiences, to the people we are sharing those experiences with, and to the set of expectations we have created around those experiences. Becoming more loving, attempting to develop the attitude of unconditional love, in fact, is the real assignment we have been given in this life. No one can do the work for us. No one can prevent us from doing the work. And everyone benefits every time any one of us makes even a tiny effort to grow in our willingness to love rather than judge.
— Karen Casey, Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow, p. 53-54