“Ideally, detachment is releasing, or detaching from, a person or problem in love…. Detachment is based on the premises that each person is responsible for himself, that we can’t solve problems that aren’t ours to solve, and that worrying doesn’t help. We adopt a policy of keeping our hands off other people’s responsibilities and tend to our own instead. If people have created some disasters for themselves, we allow them to face their own proverbial music. We allow people to be who they are. we give them the freedom to be responsible and to grow. And we give ourselves the same freedom.”
— Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, p. 56