Forgiveness about injuries this deep does not come easily or quickly. There can’t always be a moment of forgiveness, when suddenly our lives are transformed. We are human. We need time to process our experiences, to mourn, to separate, to grow. Forgiveness brews within us, expedited according to our own creative capacities, impeded by our conflicts, a mysterious product of the human spirit. The reclamation of love and of the forgiving self is an arduous and profound journey.
— Robert Karen, PhD, The Forgiving Self, p. 60