Anxiety Doesn’t Help.

Anxiety is often our first reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears.  In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic.  We think: If I really care, I’ll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset.  We convince ourselves that outcomes will be positively affected by the amount of time we spend worrying.

Our best problem-solving resource is peace.  Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state.  Often, fear and anxiety block solutions.  Anxiety gives power to the problem, not the solution.  It does not help to harbor turmoil.  It does not help.

— Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go, p. 65

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