If you believe that you are the beloved, you can offer forgiveness, even when it cannot be received. For still you say, “I set you free and I am willing to forgive you even when you cannot forgive me, because I claim my belovedness.” And you can move on, saying, “I can ask your forgiveness even though you cannot give it to me yet, and perhaps ever.”
— Henri Nouwen, Turn My Mourning Into Dancing, p. 80