I remember hearing, early in my spiritual recovery, that we should thank God for every experience we have, while we are having it; that we need to look for the good in every one of our experiences. I was not easily convinced. I had had too many painful times in my life to believe it was all intentional and all holy. It took more than a little willingness for me to review my past with an eye toward seeing and then accepting that all of my experiences were holy, even the most painful, and that all were necessary to help create who I had become, and thus had been a blessing. Letting in the idea that there are no accidents allows us to give up our confusion, our fear, our spiteful anticipation, our preconceived resentments, our resistance, and our near-constant concern over outcomes. We can choose to believe that every experience is on its own schedule and that showing up for it is our only real job.
If this seems too simple or far-fetched, consider this: If you find out at the time of death that this way of seeing was all wrong, will it matter? I think not. In the meantime, it will have allowed you to be far more peaceful going forward.
— Karen Casey, Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow, p. 111-112