What is already true is much better without any plan of mine. I’m so glad of that. My life is so simple, now that I no longer rule the world in my mind. And my children and friends are very grateful.
— Byron Katie, Loving What Is, p. 33
When we commit ourselves to writing for some part of each day we are happier, more enlightened, alive, light hearted and generous to everyone else. Even our health improves.
Brenda Ueland, quoted in Juicy Pens, Thirsty Paper, by Sark, p. 50
I have discovered the power of story to change people. I have seen a story heal shame and free people from fear, ease suffering and restore a lost sense of worth. I have learned that the ways we can befriend and strengthen the life in one another are very simple and very old. Stories have not lost their power to heal over generations. Stories need no footnotes.
— Ruth Naomi Remen, M.D., Kitchen Table Wisdom, p. xxii
It’s admirable and healthy to go after our dreams, know what we want to accomplish, what we want to achieve, get, and gain. But whether it’s a person, place, attribute, value, or thing, after we identify what it is we want and are seeking, then we need to let it go and know, not in our minds although that’s a good place to start, but in our hearts and souls that we’re okay — whole, complete, and at peace — whether we ever get what we’re after or not.
Melody Beattie, Playing It By Heart, p. 175
Intercessory prayer for one who is sinning prevails. God says so. The will of the man prayed for does not come into the question at all. . . . Prayer on the basis of the Redemption sets the connection working, and God gives life.
— Oswald Chambers, quoted in Prayers for the Faithful, by Mary Ann Bridgwater
Rather than being in a state of non-peace concerning any family members, say a prayer of gratitude for their presence in your life and all that they have come to teach you.
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, The Invisible Force, p. 130
One of the most poisonous of all Satan’s whispers is simply, “Things will never change.” That lie kills expectation, trapping our heart forever in the present. To keep desire alive and flourishing, we must renew our vision for what lies ahead. Things will not always be like this. Jesus has promised to “make all things new.” Eye has not seen, ear has not heard all that God has in store for his lovers, which does not mean “we have no clue so don’t even try to imagine,” but rather, you cannot outdream God. Desire is kept alive by imagination, the antidote to resignation. We will need imagination, which is to say, we will need hope.
Brent Curtis and John Eldredge, The Sacred Romance, p. 156
If someone defines you, even in subtle ways, they are pretending to know the unknowable. There is a quality of fantasy to their words and sometimes to their actions. Even so, they are usually unaware of the fact that they are playing “let’s pretend.” They fool themselves and sometimes others into thinking that what they are saying is true or that what they are doing is right.
When people “make up” your reality — as if they were you — they are trying to control you, even when they don’t realize it.
When people attempt to control you they begin by pretending. When they define you they are acting in a senseless way. They are pretending. . . .
We know that they are pretending because in actual fact, no one can tell what you want, believe, should do, or why you have done what you have done. No one can know your inner reality, your intentions, your motives, what you think, believe, feel, like, dislike, what you know, how you do what you do, or who you are. If someone does pretend to know your inner reality: “You’re trying to start a fight,” they have it backwards. People can only know themselves. It doesn’t work the other way around.
Since only you can define yourself, your self-definition is yours. It isn’t necessary to prove it or explain it. It is, after all, your own. Self-definition is inherent in being a person.
Despite the evidence, it is difficult for many people to realize that the person who defines them is not being rational. They feel inclined to defend themselves as if the person defining them were rational. But by trying to defend themselves against someone’s definitions, they are acknowledging those definitions as valid, that they make sense, when they are, in fact, complete nonsense….
Millions of people try to defend themselves from abuse and describe the altercations as arguments. Are they? I think not. I see them more as a struggle to retain one’s own reality when someone else has stepped into it.
— Patricia Evans, Controlling People, p. 58-59
[Photo: South Riding, Virginia, May 3, 2014]
The next time you’re feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you’re in mentally, and you may burst out laughing! That question can bring you back to yourself. And you may come to see that you’ve never really been present, that you’ve been mentally living in other people’s business all your life. Just to notice that you’re in someone else’s business can bring you back to your own wonderful self.
— Byron Katie, Loving What Is, p. 3
The best remedy for a bruised heart is not, as so many people seem to think, repose upon a manly bosom. Much more efficacious are honest work, physical activity, and the sudden acquisition of wealth.
— Dorothy L. Sayers, quoted by Kit Bakke, in Miss Alcott’s E-mail, p. 206